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A letter from Daddy and Mommy Wu to Xiaowei’s foster parents
XXWei was born on dd/mm/yy with ID no. N12xxxxxxx and resided at xx, xx Road, x Neighborhood, xx Village, xx Township, Changhua County, Taiwan Province; his natural father was born on dd/mm/yy with ID no. U12xxxxxxx; his natural mother xxx (originally Indonesian national) and both married on February 20, 2003 and divorced on February 25, 2008.
Due to lack of care by the family, the Social Affairs Bureau arranged Xiaowei to stay at the home of a foster family. On March 3, 2009, Xiaowei arrived at our home (Wu Wangu and Tsai Suyue).
Xiaowei could not speak well at arrival and certified to have developmental delay. His behavior was beastly and rude, self-centered, highly destructive and poorly disciplined. He cried and screamed all day with each incident more than an hour. After a long period of running in and observation, for approximately half a year, we gradually understood his behavior. He could not be taught in an ordinary way, in fact, only reverse education works. For instance, do not coax or pacify him (ineffective) while he is crying and screaming, rather, allow him to continue crying and even crying loudly. In the beginning, he would continue crying but after a couple of times, and if you ask him to continue crying, he would say I don’t want to cry anymore, and so on and so forth. Hence, only by resorting to reverse education can we rectify Zeng Zhiwei’s bad behavior. It’s really tedious and tiring in the entire course of education. Be patient and cherishing with persistence. There are countless stories about Xiaowei……….
Now, Xiaowei usually got up around 7:30am. An adult should be present to help him with tooth brushing (assist with squeezing out the tooth paste) and washing his face. He attended classes at the kindergarten from 8 am to 4 pm from Monday to Friday, and had breakfast and lunch at the kindergarten with snacks in the afternoon. After school, he would return home and do homework (with assistance of an adult), and had dinner from 6 to 6:30 pm. He knew how to use chopsticks and spoon in eating rice or noodle. He ate most of the food, and liked eating fish, meat, egg, milk, vegetable and fruits. He also ate some seafood but did not like mushrooms, pepper, taro, eggplant, bitter gourd, and tomato. Sometimes, he ate fruits or snacks after the meal and preferred to have pudding and yogurt and other beverages. .He usually took a bath around 9 pm., but he did not know how to wash his hair. Bathing required assistance of an adult but he could wear clothing and shoes. He went to bed around 9:30pm to 10 pm and had the habit of brushing his teeth before going to sleep. A bit scared sleeping alone but he had overcome it with a little lamp. It was necessary to ask him to piss but he could get up by himself if he felt the urge to piss during the night. He could clean his ass after defecation but could not do it properly.
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iaowei was physically healthy with sensitive respiratory tracts and easily coughed (particularly after eating ice food). Coughing was difficult to recover and during serious coughing, his respiration sounded like asthma but he was brave in taking medicine (in powder) and injection.
Xiaowei was lively and energetic, outgoing, smart, quick in learning, courteous, talkative, and can talk sweetly, as well as having a tendency of fawning. He was highly self-centered, naughty and had new ideas. While playing with other children, he liked to play the leader. When getting high in playing, he would become rude and do some dangerous actions and prone for accidents. Sometimes, he intentionally broke the rule, sabotaged things and saw how you deal with him. He would test your tolerance and possible punishments for him. You must keep faith, otherwise he would say you lied to him and disobey you.
We wish to thank you for your recognition and attention. We hope you’ll bring him happiness in the way of growing and learning. We hope he will succeed in society in the future and feedback to society and take care of more people in need. Dear new foster parents, we’re obliged for your hard work. With your love and care, we believe Xiaowei will be happy and fortunate, thanks to God, ……..with good blessing.
Having stayed at our home for 2 years and 8 months, all members of our family including father Wu Wangu, mother Tsai Suyue, eldest brother Wu Jiaru, elder brother Wu Jiasheng, and elder sister Wu Jiawen, we welcome you to return to Taiwan for tour upon growing up! We wish to have the opportunity to see you growing up. Miss you! Bless you! We look forward to your good news…..Please refer to the photo for contact.
Sincerely,
Your foster parents from Taiwan
October 16, 2011