Ding Ding Dong？
”Ding Ding Dong, Ding Ding Dong!”
”What’s Ding Ding Dong? You want something?”
Xiaowei couldn’t speak clearly when he just arrived, and Ding Ding Dong was his pet phrase. I couldn’t understand what he wanted to say and could only make lively gestures with him……
Xiaowei cried and screamed all day. Mommy Wu found it difficult to teach and discipline Xiaowei. After observation for some time, Mommy Wu found that perhaps Xiaowei had difficulty in expressing himself so he could only cry and scream.
“Upon arrival Xiaowei could not express himself clearly and could only repeat the pet phrase Ding Ding Dong. I couldn’t understand what he was saying and could only make lively gestures with him……. Later, I found out that whenever Xiaowei had difficulty asking “what is this?”he simply said Ding Ding Dong.”
This discovery smoothed the way of Mommy Wu in communicating with Xiaowei. Having further contact and dialog with Xiaowei, Mommy Wu also found out that Xiaowei had a penchant for quibble with others in order to arouse others’ attention. Henceforth, Mommy Wu began using different tactics to get along with Xiaowei.
Mommy Wu needed to address his emotions first. Whenever Xiaowei cried and screamed, Mommy Wu sought to pacify his emotions. Nevertheless, coaxing seemed to have no use. Once, Mommy Wu was exhausted by his crying and sat by the staircase, helplessly watching him cry. “Since coaxing didn’t help, so I let you vent your emotions!” She thought. Xiaowei cried loudly for over an hour and duly vent his emotions.
Afterwards, Mommy Wu resorted to a different tactic. “Before, I used to lock him up and did not allow him to go out. He was so angry that he kicked the door and bumped people. Another time, his emotions stirred, he opened the door and went out. The door was not locked and I did not stop him. Upon going out he found that I did not follow him or call him, he was perplexed and stared blankly in situ. He then returned feeling bored.” Such reverse tactic of allowing Xiaowei to vent his emotions lasted half a month and Mommy Wu found that Xiaowei cried less and less. After 3 months, Xiaowei had better control of his emotions and no longer screamed loudly. Seeing such progress Mommy Wu began teaching him and talking more to him. This way, Xiaowei was allowed to think what is right and what is wrong. She was able to teach him about discipline.